Choke (NSFW/ For Mature Audiences Only)

I recently had a conversation my girlfriends about rough sex. Lord have mercy. *bbm whew face*. I've decided that every girl -even the sweetest of girls like me who will cook you dinner, dessert and give you a backrub after a long day- has an inner slut that must be let out at some point in her adult life. 

There is a time to be sensual, sweet, take things slow. And then there are times when only rough, hard, fast and border line violent sex is perfectly in order. Think make-up sex, or I hate you but I love you sex. Beds are broken, roomates are woken, and in the words of the boys over at VSB, "pets are scared". 

KB admitted to liking it rough. I'm grown so I can admit I like it that way too sometimes. Our other homegirl had a guy slap her and rip her shirt. LMAO. Not too hard she says, but it disturbed her a little. Whatever he was going for it worked because he got it that night AND we are still talking about it to this day. 

There are always some guys who take it too far like homegirl's boo and try to man handle you to the extreme. And then there are other guys who you have to TELL "Do it harder" and they don't quite get it or miss the mark completely. For clarification you guys,  ROUGH SEX IS NOT JUST TALKING. You can not talk like you're in a porno and move like your skipping through a field of daisies. That is incorrect. 

Rough  means slapping (not in the face- unless specifically requested I guess lolol). Pulling of hair. Some biting maybe. Talking. Maybe choking. Whatever you may consider a little aggressive.

I love me some Trini. He was my boo. But dayum. He was so sweet and proper. Rough sex was challenging in the beginning. My inner slut was too crazy for him I guess. His "talking" would be a whisper. He was not experienced with the type of  borderline abusive adult activities I like (Just kidding), and did not feel comfortable doing those things to the person he loved. His words, not mine. Before you get to Trini bashing, he was great. But rough? Not so much. 

I guess a post on following directions is in order as well. I don't know if its a guy thing, or if both sexes do it, but we all need to remember what we learned in kindergarten: Follow directions (and color inside the lines). "Don't stop" means "don't stop". Not take a break, not take a breather, don't even adjust your position to do it "better". That's being selfish. Do. Not. Stop. 

I'm ranting and have forgotten what I had to say. Other than some (all) girls probably like it a little rough. There's room for experimentation and variety, just don't be selfish, crazy extreme with it, or make your boo physically uncomfortable. 

-Sade